Attuning of mind and body through at-one-ment with my Higher Self - the mind-spirit connection within my centre - and with everything that this could possibly imply, I take to be the ultimate challenge of being human. For, once it is met, do not only mind and body benefit, but the perception of all and everything will be altered to the end of harmony within and without.

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The Art of Fisting

Views & Sentiments
Perspectives & Alternative Dimensions

Part II

Communicating

In communicating with all our senses and our bodies, fisting can also be a verbal, even noisy, affair. But verbalization, I feel, should never state the obvious or the superfluous. Instead, it should be limited to encouraging suggestions and focus on vital feedback and reaffirmation that elicit and foster a favourable state of mind and kindle tender emotions - all corresponding with each moment 's anticipation of every next imminently progressive move in the fisting action. Any irrelevant communications may only prove to be distracting from remaining focused on the adventure.

Verbal expressions of exultation are not uncommon and should definitely not be suppressed; they are positively infectious, benefiting both fisting pals in form of feedback. Besides, as long as you are on the same level with your partner, he will know exactly where you are or where you have just been and will most likely expect you to react that way. With a receptive mind, whilst fisting, it is quite possible to glean insight and experience enlightenment that find downright expression in your verbal jubilation. There's nothing wrong with that. In togetherness with compatible fisting partners I have, more than once, been fortunate in experiencing tremendously transforming and inspiring mystical and spiritual encounters. Fear of such realities does not get anyone anywhere - least me. Such experiences have completely changed my attitude toward others and my outlook to life.

Often, something cannot be expressed verbally. Attempts of verbally conveying feelings and non-tangible issues tend to fail as language is insufficient in 'hitting the nail on the head'. Furthermore, the spoken word is capable of distorting or destroying that which can only be felt on emotional and sensed on psychic-mental levels. It cannot, therefore, or should not, be verbalized. In lieu of directly conveying in words what moves you, or what you desire to happen, you can, however, with an astutely attuned mind, by speaking in symbols or metaphors, convey indirectly what you want your pal to know. Once their meanings sink into his head they create the most powerful feedback.

Non-verbal communications, which is sensory, I consider just as indispensable as verbal and physical communications. There are three types of it: tactility, eye contact and emotional-mental contact. Mastering them is an art and it may take some time to get the knack of them.

Apart from your ass and dick, and your tongue, that have their own and special ways of communicating, another asset of yours is your fingertips. In using your imagination, you will find many means to let them convey what you wish to give and and receive.

Eyes can 'speak' words, express longings as well as intentions, they can ask and reply, they can beg and grant; whole new worlds will open up in your partner's eyes.

Emotional-mental communications basically entails fully identifying, in your heart and in your mind, with what you wish to transmit to your friend without putting it into words, at the same time remaining continuously aware of him, of his desires and enjoyment, of what he means to you, and of what you want to give to him. By consciously aligning yourself to these criteria, you are enabling your pal to enter your head space. Once you become aware of this, you will also sense an ever increasing urge to commit your feelings to him. Instead of using words, you will automatically and naturally activate a dormant capacity inherent in you, that of transmuting these feelings into ways that allow their mental transmission. You will want to feed them to him by feeling them to him, pass them on to him as your gift. The moment this is happening, you are overcome by their instant physical manifestation of which your friend's feedback reaction will be proof. Happy soaring!

Setting and Mindset

We all know that fisting is best enjoyed in an ideal setting. The various playgrounds, some of them fabulously equipped with all the paraphernalia to which we are accustomed, should ideally also provide the ambiance befitting sensory perceptions - particularly vital in fisting. If this aspect is not reasonably attended to, in consequence impermissible frustration could be inflicted upon the players. I am referring to discording issues such as ill-chosen positioning and intensity of lighting, unsuitable music and inapt volume, inappropriate room temperature, unnecessary noises, extrinsic smells, or any interference by a third party whilst two players are focusing on intimate action (unless agreed otherwise in case of a group session).

As all of our senses are running in top gear during a fisting session, the ambiance should be conducive to them and, therefore, be sensibly and meticulously considered. Without it, the flow of events can get upset, at times severely. In conjunction with consciousness-enhancing stimulants disturbing effects can easily intensify, rendering us susceptible to not being able to ignore them, let alone change them. Instead, they become a gnawing source of torments. All of us are only too familiar with the effects of undue disruptions, how they can disagree with fisting, and what they can cause! Moreover, personal moods and operational modes do change from partner to partner, from session to session, requiring attuning to the senses, or at-one-ment with them. Our personal constitution, in which we find ourselves at one moment or another, is also a factor affecting our overall sensory perception. The more unwanted distractions or disruptions can be forestalled, the better our senses are served. It should be any fister's responsibility to observe these details. And it's a real challenge to get this one right. It's worth it. For sure.

In summary, the choice of the setting forms the core of a congenial mindset. Creating the right mindset should also include your capacity of identifying with your pal and to be yielding to his suggestions or wishes, whenever it makes sense. It's the view from his perspective that counts as well. That way a session can start on an equal footing. According to my experience, your attitude and approach toward one another, as well as the mood you are carrying into a session, determine the rule of thumb thus: a session will take off in the spirit that you are willing to provide and usually tends to continue along that line. The mindset will always be proportionate to your intent.

The situation may be different under the influence of consciousness-enhancing stimulants. Depending on which ones you chose - and what you expect of them! - they can be smooth, or they can cause unexpected mood swings. In approaching them with a daring but guided sense of adventure myself, I prefer dosing them prudently, whenever possible (ha, ha), and at the same time preserving my sense of responsibility and continuous awareness all round. My stance of "I am having them - they don't have me" has always served my fisting friends and me well.

Pheromones

A fantastic turn-on, especially enhancing the fisting mood, are the naturally produced human male sex attractants or pheromones. The harder the workout, the more of this liquid gold will come forth and the more intensive its raunchy scent will be. To increase its intensity and prolong its effect, I produce a concentrated extract of it from collected body excretions of fisters I particularly like, following a self-devised formula, and administering it just before a fisting session gets lusty - intermittently thereafter as desired. It adds a completely new dimension to the entire spectrum of sensory perception. For instant results it is applied to the inner lining of the nostrils of each player, although it can be smeared on any part of the body likely to be explored by the nose to pick up the scent. Application under the armpits or in the groin magnifies the naturally exuding aphrodisiacs produced in these areas. Using the fluids from specially selected men provides me with an extra psycho-kick. Anyone using commercial perfumes whilst fisting - pitifully, there are still some who don't get the message - does neither know what he is inflicting on his partner, nor what he is missing himself.

Tit for Tat

Contrary to the wisdom of some, 69-fisting is definitely possible and very much worthwhile. Keeping in mind the desired goal, it is best accomplished between two partners of similar physical height, as their fists and arms should ideally be equidistant to their respective butts. Although, there are a number of positions in which this can be achieved, I prefer the 69-position. It would have to begin with both partners lying flat on their backs. Following respective initial penetration, the ana(l)tomy of the pelvic bone structure will guide you to the best and most comfortable position; it will establish itself more or less of its own. For best deep action results, partners will eventually, and inevitably, end up back to back - no kidding - in a 96-position. The reward is mind-blowing! It is an all-out, integrally shared fisting experience. Quite different to "regular" fisting, an additional and completely divergent set of playing rules apply, as both participants are top and bottom simultaneously. They correspond with the equality inherent in 69-fisting and can only be comprehended on the spot in action. I can tell you this much: It's all a matter of tit for tat. And the rest? ... Its up to you to find out. With your ethics on high alert and your soul attuned to your fisting partner's soul, you'll be in for something you'll never forget.

Music

Much of the hitherto known synthesized transcendental and 'trippy' music is fabulous in conjunction with fisting. Just as much can be said about certain classical music, especially sacred music. When it comes to fisting and music, attentively listening to it as you would in a concert hall does not strike me as the objective here. For, that could prove distracting from your pal and from the fisting itself. Rather, music should be allowed to seep into you on an unconscious level, subliminally guiding you during fisting, at the same time, however, not be the cause of abandoning awareness of your partner and the action.

I view music as a vehicle to help establish the mood as part of the mind set, the head space. The challenge, therefore, lies in letting the music become part of you until you both, quite effortlessly, become the music yourself, so to speak. It serves as an ideal platform from where a session can be entered into harmoniously, and in harmony with the music. Sometimes, it happens that distractions by external sources, or one's mind's sudden preoccupation with things irrelevant to the action, or the effect of enhancements, cause one or the other to veer off into a different head space. Inevitably, this would adversely affect the flow of the fisting progress. In such cases music can be reuniting and unifying. But it does require communicating to refocus on the action by meeting one another on the music, so as to restore the harmony, thus the balance.

The general mood prevailing between fisting partners will be the measure of the choice of music at any one moment. In case you were to opt for enhancements, their effects and intensity will create an elevated mood, which in turn may dictate a different choice of music. Sometimes a change of music, depending on the direction of the action in progress, may be necessary. I have found such changes most advantageous, for the continuation of music that may all over the sudden appear disturbing, or gnawing, can be a tremendous turn-off and come-down - pretty much a distraction from the overall goal. A man who is with the fisting action all the way cannot afford to be oblivious to such requirements.

If you are into piston fisting or punch fisting, you would probably choose the kind music supportive of this preference. If you are into the gentle approach and either like the mode of a constant continuum or a gradually progressing intensity of fisting, most likely your choice of music would have to fall into line with your favourite. Whether I play as top or bottom, I generally tend to like the latter best. Following decades of my experience in fisting I have learnt what music is capable of effecting and to which constructive and creative use it can be put.

From this angle, and to my taste and understanding, fisting music needs to have encompassing as well as incorporating qualities. By that I mean it to be able to assist in removing mental and thus physical barriers, in bringing two guys closer to each other, taking hold of their souls and hearts, and in furthering their mutually evolving cognition of each other and the wonder of meshing together. So it follows that I function most creatively under the influence of sounds that are "horizontal" and will reach my emotional centre. Since my prospective fisting mates are sentient beings too, likely to respond in similar ways but not easily admitted by some, I always allow my actions to be guided to run conform to and in harmony with the music. It primes my partners' minds, particularly when certain bars are predictable, to align themselves via the melody to my head in anticipation of the inevitable taking place the next moment - much to the surprise and delight of the recipients of my fists or my ass.

Needless to say that insipidly sticky-sweet tracks, or incessantly beating, "vertical" noise, or music that has been conceived purely intellectually or synthetically abstract, without any feelings whatsoever, clearly does not cut it.

Commitment and Motto

My commitment to fisting entails abandonment with heart and soul. It does by no means exclude fucking during the same session. Yet, for the same reason I am not specifically interested in the use of dildos. Even though they may be administered by a horny guy, they are inanimate and for sure not the real thing. No substitute of this kind can beat a man's mind, feelings, cock, fists and arms. S/M as a discipline per se is of not really of interest to me. In the strict context of fisting, however, I do value its potential and cherish it being applied intelligently. With a sensible, creative and compatible partner untold things are possible. All other disciplines fade in the glory of fisting. Some of them I find right down infantile. So why waste my potential, energy and time with them?

Perhaps, my overall stance reflects high-pitched desires. They may strike you as unreasonable expectations or demands. Performing them myself, I can testify that they are not impossible to achieve. Let me ask you: What is the alternative to a half-hearted fisting session? What would be the point of it? ... ? ... So are we on the same level? I can assure you, I very much identify with the points I am addressing and view them indispensable necessities for docking in outer space. Any of my prospective fisting partners should at least be receptive to them; their dismissal only equals denial. Reciprocal attention and respect goes without saying - naturally. In summary, let my motto speak for itself: PLVS VLTRA.

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Proud to be Red

I am a leatherman, proud to be gay, proud to be an avid fister. Red is definitely my "house" colour. There is every good reason for Red to be the first colour atop of the gay rainbow flag. It deserves to be in this place for blatantly clear reasons. Period.



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